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choice feminism and surrogacy
I can’t believe we are starting the year like this, but again, women’s bodies aren’t at your disposal. Elites would have us believe that turning yourself—and your body—into a product to sell is empowering. Capitalism would have you believe that doing everything, even carrying someone else’s baby, is how far you should go to “make it” today.
We have lost the plot.
Do most people understand how dangerous pregnancy is?
Every day is a reminder to me that pregnancy is a life-risking act. Cancer, diabetes, swollen body parts, hair loss, depression. How inhuman is it for upper-class women to participate in a system that exploits other women’s bodies and then perversely push it as an empowering movement? Treating pregnancy as a service you can outsource ( from poorer women) requires a deep moral detachment from the body doing the work.
And this is exactly the point capitalism depends on. Commercial surrogacy lead less privileged women think of their womb as an extra room that can be rented out, rather than as part of a living person.
Audre Lorde : “There is no such thing as a single-issue struggle because we do not live single-issue lives.”
You cannot talk about choice while ignoring class, race, health, and power. Feminism is not only vote rights, choice right. You guys aren’t against anything: the sex industry, surrogacy, trad wives, GLP-1, cosmetic surgery. You just take everything capitalism propose to you on a platter and run with it.
Some privileged women turn to surrogacy not because they can’t carry a pregnancy, but because they don’t want to be inconvenienced by it.
They don’t want the weight gain. They don’t want the stretch marks. They don’t want the career slowdown. They don’t want the bodily changes that pregnancy demands.
The solution is outsourcing a womb.
It would be so hypocritical not to link this to this new society we live in. We push for bounce back narratives, mommy makeovers, and GLP-1 drugs as the price of desirability. The physical traces of pregnancy are seen as something to erase as fast as possible. You are expected to reproduce, but not look like you did. To be a mother, but not carry the visible evidence of it ( except for your surrogate baby !).
That is not sisterhood.
What’s even more disturbing is how surrogacy is pushed, but not adoption. I mean, I guess in a world where migrants are framed as the root of all evil, the white agenda of procreating more white babies; to avoid being “replaced” (the so-called browning of the world) takes priority.
Japan closing its borders, refusing to fully recognize biracial citizens, and pushing a return to the traditional nuclear family; the trend is clear.
Funny thing: when I was eight years old, I vividly remember how desperate my uncle (a white man) was to have his own “real” kids. I couldn’t comprehend what the difference was between that and adoption. My father was adopted by my grandmother. I was his niece. We were family.
Only today, seeing how obsessed he is with demographic change in Europe, am I realizing that maybe he never saw us as fully his.
People also assume adoption has to be across race, and I truly wonder why. Maybe racial difference makes it look more like a philanthropic project (Angelina Jolie) and, once again, not a family.
The so-called “underpopulation” of the West and first-world countries, is a lie pushed to serve a white supremacist agenda. You know who is actually underpopulated? The Caribbean. Jamaica has a quarter of the population of countries with similar land size like Israel. Cuba could easily sustain two to three times its current population by global standards.
It’s 2026, and I still have to remind people:
The revolution is non-negotiable.
It is non-capitalist.
And any system that claims to give agency to women, migrants, or the poor while extracting value from their bodies is not liberation—it is domination with better branding.
Or, as Audre Lorde warned us long ago: “The master’s tools will never dismantle the master’s house.”